OVERWHELMED BY DEPRESSION?
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Depression is loaded with conundrums. These unfortunate little ironies or catch-22s you could say that just make the process of recovering significantly more complex and challenging than the process of recovering from most ordinary problems.
The simplest way to recover from depression if you want the cure-all is really just to get out of your comfort zone over and over and over again, because when we get out of that comfort zone, it literally becomes impossible to stay depressed. The irony, the conundrum here is that when we're feeling depressed, getting out of a comfort zone is actually a lot more difficult than what it ordinarily would be and it ordinarily is difficult.
The problem is in depression, just the littlest tiny things sometimes can trigger yourself. These little relatively insignificant things that would ordinarily have little or no impact on us can hit us a lot harder when we're feeling depressed. As a result, that process of getting out of that comfort zone is just much more complicated and much more challenging than it ordinarily would be.
It's a bit like trying to do exercise or do something physical when you're severely sunburned. When you're severely sunburned, even the process of trying to go to sleep at night can be excruciatingly painful because every toss and turn, as you're rolling over in your sleep, you feel the sheets rubbing across your skin and it's painful. Whereas ordinarily, you wouldn't notice that at all.
Now, that red raw, sort of extra sensitivity and emotional pain could probably quite simply be healed purely for the power of connecting with people. If you've got good friendships, good relationships, if you've got people around you that you can feel a strong sense of connectedness to, well that alone would probably offer a fairly simple solution to help you recover through depression.
The problem is, again, is that irony. There's that conundrum, the catch-22, which is that in depression, the process of feeling connected to people becomes inhibited. In other words, it's a lot more difficult to feel connected to people when you're depressed.
There's a couple of reasons for that by the way. The first is that in order to feel a sense of connectedness to people, we need to feel a sense of understanding. We need to feel that they are understanding of us. The problem is that, in depression, most people around us simply don't really understand what's going on. They're too in their own little universe and it's very difficult to explain to them sometimes as well.
If you've lost a loved one or someone close to you has died or you've had a really traumatic experience, yes, then people tend to be more understanding. With long term chronic depression, quite often, you're feeling depressed because the thing that has triggered you off is probably something fairly small or seemingly small. It would certainly seem small to other people. If you try to explain it, it just becomes much more complicated.
What you realized in your mind is that even though that thing may seem small, it's actually triggered off other thoughts or memories of things that have happened in the past. Or all these negative experiences through your life, although small, have also connected and joined the dots to create this much bigger picture in your mind.
Whilst the person sees just a little insignificant thing that they might think, "Why can't you just go over it?" What we see is something that eventually leads our mind to believe that life is terrible, it's all hopeless and there's nothing to look forward to.
Unless you've experienced that, it can be very challenging to understand what that's like. That makes it just more difficult to gain that sense of understanding from people around us. The second problem is that because unconsciously we'll always prefer to feel understood, then what happens with people especially that are experiencing long term depression is ...
As the saying says, "Misery prefers company." We tend to find it more easy to gain that sense of connectedness from other people that area also quite miserable or pessimistic or very negative. Being surrounded by negative people is not going to help recover from depression. If anything, quite the opposite, it will help you stay in that dark space.
Again, that's part of that conundrum where you find it more easy to connect with people that are going to have a negative impact on you. Whereas the people that could potentially have a positive impact on you not going to feel a sense of connectedness or understanding. The end result is a deep down feeling of isolation, which is the exact opposite of what we need to feel in order to recover from depression. Again, the irony is that the more isolated we feel, the more depressed we get. The more depressed we get, the more isolated we feel and it becomes its vicious cycle.
The other irony about depression is that the way that we would need to think in order to recover from depression is the exact opposite of the way that depression tries to get us to think. It's important to understand that depression is essentially a liar. It's like a sleazy salesman that plays on our hopes and our fears and our weaknesses and our vulnerabilities. It knows how to twist things and tell us things that will give us a short term sense of comfort sometimes but it will rob us our long term happiness.
For example, sometimes, it's simply easier to believe that everything is terrible or there's no hope for the future at all. Sometimes, at least, that gives us a sense of certainty. Whereas, if we were to get our hopes up, we would have to let our guard down. We'd have to accept that maybe not everything is terrible but not everything is good either.
That sets us up to be caught off guard and to be prone to being disappointed. Sometimes, it's just easier to believe that yes, everything is terrible and there's no hope for the future. All the other distorted version of reality, the depression often tries to pitch to us to get us to buy into.
Once you learn to identify that pattern, it gives you an empowered ability to sit back from it, realize when it's doing that phony sales pitch and give you the ability to understand how to then un-manipulate its manipulated version of reality and see things how they really are. That's what I've explained in this e-book and it's going to break it down for you in a way that's going to make it a lot easy to understand.
The other irony about depression is that taking care of ourselves when we're depressed is a lot more complicated. It's a lot more challenging and difficult than what it would ordinarily be. The irony is though that to recover from depression, we actually need to learn how to take better care of ourselves.
If you can think of the person that you love and care for most in the world right now, the person that is the most precious to you and imagine that person was now in the care of somebody else. You would want that somebody else. You would want that carer to take very good care of your loved one.
In order to recover from depression, we need to learn how to essentially become that career but also become that loved one and start to look after ourselves and think about it and communicate with ourselves in a way that provides us with strong emotional support. The irony though is that in depression, it's a lot easier to not even realize sometimes that we're neglecting ourselves.
Here's the really important thing that I'd like you to take onboard though. If you were to speak to somebody who's in the middle of what they would call rock bottom or midlife crisis or having a nervous breakdown or however they would describe at the time. They would say that it's one of the deepest, darkest, most difficult moments of their life.
The really, really interesting and fascinating thing is though that when you follow them up and you speak to them a few years down the track, when they're reflecting back on those rock bottom moments, they'll speak of those moments in a very different tone. What they then come to realize is that they actually needed to have those rock bottom moments. They needed to go through that because sometimes we just keep spiraling and spiraling down and go nowhere.
When we hit that moment that we would call rock bottom, they're the moments that jolt us into realizing that enough is enough. We're not willing to put up with that anymore and whatever it takes, we become willing to make the change. As a result of that, those pivotal moments, they make a different decision, they take a slightly different course of action and it doesn't necessarily fix everything straight away, but they just start to veer in a slightly different direction. As a result, that better direction is what sends them down the path to recovery and ends up almost being like riding a new chapter of life.
Everything I've spoken about here and everything I've written about in this FREE e-book is not just theoretical information out of a textbook. These are all things that I can personally associate with. These are things that I have personally experienced. I've been through it. I know what it's like, but I also know the path to recovery as well.
It's not necessarily easy. It's not necessarily simple, but what I can guarantee you is that it is necessarily worth it. You are worth it. That's I think the most important fundamental belief that needs to change in a depressed person's mind. We need to accept that we are worth whatever it takes to heal those wounds and to fix our life, especially when we start to realize that depression is not always just affecting us.
One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling like you have to protect your loved ones from yourself. One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling guilt about not being able to be there or provide the emotional support for our loved ones around just because we are so burdened with our own depression. That's one of the other motivating forces that brings people to this point as well. When they realized that they need to make it changed not just for them self, but for the people around them as well. If you would like to download the audio book, just click on the link below this article to get started today. We all learn differently and i have provided some reading and audio material for you on depression. If you are more keen on video content specificall you can access a bunch of video content through my youtube channel or simply accessing one of my many online courses.
The problem is in depression, just the littlest tiny things sometimes can trigger yourself. These little relatively insignificant things that would ordinarily have little or no impact on us can hit us a lot harder when we're feeling depressed. As a result, that process of getting out of that comfort zone is just much more complicated and much more challenging than it ordinarily would be.
It's a bit like trying to do exercise or do something physical when you're severely sunburned. When you're severely sunburned, even the process of trying to go to sleep at night can be excruciatingly painful because every toss and turn, as you're rolling over in your sleep, you feel the sheets rubbing across your skin and it's painful. Whereas ordinarily, you wouldn't notice that at all.
Now, that red raw, sort of extra sensitivity and emotional pain could probably quite simply be healed purely for the power of connecting with people. If you've got good friendships, good relationships, if you've got people around you that you can feel a strong sense of connectedness to, well that alone would probably offer a fairly simple solution to help you recover through depression.
The problem is, again, is that irony. There's that conundrum, the catch-22, which is that in depression, the process of feeling connected to people becomes inhibited. In other words, it's a lot more difficult to feel connected to people when you're depressed.
There's a couple of reasons for that by the way. The first is that in order to feel a sense of connectedness to people, we need to feel a sense of understanding. We need to feel that they are understanding of us. The problem is that, in depression, most people around us simply don't really understand what's going on. They're too in their own little universe and it's very difficult to explain to them sometimes as well.
If you've lost a loved one or someone close to you has died or you've had a really traumatic experience, yes, then people tend to be more understanding. With long term chronic depression, quite often, you're feeling depressed because the thing that has triggered you off is probably something fairly small or seemingly small. It would certainly seem small to other people. If you try to explain it, it just becomes much more complicated.
What you realized in your mind is that even though that thing may seem small, it's actually triggered off other thoughts or memories of things that have happened in the past. Or all these negative experiences through your life, although small, have also connected and joined the dots to create this much bigger picture in your mind.
Whilst the person sees just a little insignificant thing that they might think, "Why can't you just go over it?" What we see is something that eventually leads our mind to believe that life is terrible, it's all hopeless and there's nothing to look forward to.
Unless you've experienced that, it can be very challenging to understand what that's like. That makes it just more difficult to gain that sense of understanding from people around us. The second problem is that because unconsciously we'll always prefer to feel understood, then what happens with people especially that are experiencing long term depression is ...
As the saying says, "Misery prefers company." We tend to find it more easy to gain that sense of connectedness from other people that area also quite miserable or pessimistic or very negative. Being surrounded by negative people is not going to help recover from depression. If anything, quite the opposite, it will help you stay in that dark space.
Again, that's part of that conundrum where you find it more easy to connect with people that are going to have a negative impact on you. Whereas the people that could potentially have a positive impact on you not going to feel a sense of connectedness or understanding. The end result is a deep down feeling of isolation, which is the exact opposite of what we need to feel in order to recover from depression. Again, the irony is that the more isolated we feel, the more depressed we get. The more depressed we get, the more isolated we feel and it becomes its vicious cycle.
The other irony about depression is that the way that we would need to think in order to recover from depression is the exact opposite of the way that depression tries to get us to think. It's important to understand that depression is essentially a liar. It's like a sleazy salesman that plays on our hopes and our fears and our weaknesses and our vulnerabilities. It knows how to twist things and tell us things that will give us a short term sense of comfort sometimes but it will rob us our long term happiness.
For example, sometimes, it's simply easier to believe that everything is terrible or there's no hope for the future at all. Sometimes, at least, that gives us a sense of certainty. Whereas, if we were to get our hopes up, we would have to let our guard down. We'd have to accept that maybe not everything is terrible but not everything is good either.
That sets us up to be caught off guard and to be prone to being disappointed. Sometimes, it's just easier to believe that yes, everything is terrible and there's no hope for the future. All the other distorted version of reality, the depression often tries to pitch to us to get us to buy into.
Once you learn to identify that pattern, it gives you an empowered ability to sit back from it, realize when it's doing that phony sales pitch and give you the ability to understand how to then un-manipulate its manipulated version of reality and see things how they really are. That's what I've explained in this e-book and it's going to break it down for you in a way that's going to make it a lot easy to understand.
The other irony about depression is that taking care of ourselves when we're depressed is a lot more complicated. It's a lot more challenging and difficult than what it would ordinarily be. The irony is though that to recover from depression, we actually need to learn how to take better care of ourselves.
If you can think of the person that you love and care for most in the world right now, the person that is the most precious to you and imagine that person was now in the care of somebody else. You would want that somebody else. You would want that carer to take very good care of your loved one.
In order to recover from depression, we need to learn how to essentially become that career but also become that loved one and start to look after ourselves and think about it and communicate with ourselves in a way that provides us with strong emotional support. The irony though is that in depression, it's a lot easier to not even realize sometimes that we're neglecting ourselves.
Here's the really important thing that I'd like you to take onboard though. If you were to speak to somebody who's in the middle of what they would call rock bottom or midlife crisis or having a nervous breakdown or however they would describe at the time. They would say that it's one of the deepest, darkest, most difficult moments of their life.
The really, really interesting and fascinating thing is though that when you follow them up and you speak to them a few years down the track, when they're reflecting back on those rock bottom moments, they'll speak of those moments in a very different tone. What they then come to realize is that they actually needed to have those rock bottom moments. They needed to go through that because sometimes we just keep spiraling and spiraling down and go nowhere.
When we hit that moment that we would call rock bottom, they're the moments that jolt us into realizing that enough is enough. We're not willing to put up with that anymore and whatever it takes, we become willing to make the change. As a result of that, those pivotal moments, they make a different decision, they take a slightly different course of action and it doesn't necessarily fix everything straight away, but they just start to veer in a slightly different direction. As a result, that better direction is what sends them down the path to recovery and ends up almost being like riding a new chapter of life.
Everything I've spoken about here and everything I've written about in this FREE e-book is not just theoretical information out of a textbook. These are all things that I can personally associate with. These are things that I have personally experienced. I've been through it. I know what it's like, but I also know the path to recovery as well.
It's not necessarily easy. It's not necessarily simple, but what I can guarantee you is that it is necessarily worth it. You are worth it. That's I think the most important fundamental belief that needs to change in a depressed person's mind. We need to accept that we are worth whatever it takes to heal those wounds and to fix our life, especially when we start to realize that depression is not always just affecting us.
One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling like you have to protect your loved ones from yourself. One of the worst feelings in the world is feeling guilt about not being able to be there or provide the emotional support for our loved ones around just because we are so burdened with our own depression. That's one of the other motivating forces that brings people to this point as well. When they realized that they need to make it changed not just for them self, but for the people around them as well. If you would like to download the audio book, just click on the link below this article to get started today. We all learn differently and i have provided some reading and audio material for you on depression. If you are more keen on video content specificall you can access a bunch of video content through my youtube channel or simply accessing one of my many online courses.
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